Giving A Good Blowjob is Way Easier Than You Think With These 19 Fool-Proof Tips

For beginners, the simplest setup is also one of the most effective: “Have your partner lie down on their back and kneel or sit between their legs,” Weiss says, adding that you can position yourself on either side of their legs as well. These positions “allow you complete control” over pace, depth, and pressure—which is exactly what you want when you’re still figuring out what feels best for your partner (and what’s comfortable for you).

You often see blowjobs depicted in this position, Weiss says. While that can be a turn-on, it also “requires a certain level of trust,” she explains, because it feels more submissive for the giver. That’s why she recommends talking about comfort and boundaries before trying the Elevator. “It may feel very vulnerable, for instance, if a partner touches your head during a blowjob as this can limit your motion,” Weiss says. If you’re okay with it, specify what kind of contact feels good—hair stroking or gentle guiding versus anything that feels pushy. Oh, and one last tip: Put a pillow or cushion under your knees.

More intense blowjob positions, like face-sitting, “gives you the least control” over speed and depth because the receiver is on top and can therefore thrust quickly and deeply into your mouth. If you try it, communicate in advance your comfort levels, and consider agreeing on a nonverbal “stop” signal (like tapping the receiver’s thigh) since speaking will likely be limited.